Interview with Gen X

Interview with male Genx early 20's

11/3/2009

He has explained that he has joined a group called “Fathers against marriage” his reasoning for this is,

He feels it is unfair that any type of contract is dropped when a child is born or brought into the relationship. A pre nuptial including coverage of a child, expires, even if partners agree to set child support and or visitations prior to the birth. The court does not recognise that document and decides what is to be done after a court hearing using current laws disregarding any previous agreed upon legal documents.

Is marriage dead? I asked him.

Several co-workers have stopped any formal seeking of a partner. There is a trend about them. Most of them have their life together. They have a house, nice car, work car, all the toys, frequent vacations. They are afraid of what would happen if a “gold digger” or Springer psycho was incognito and ruined their life. They all expressed either first hand mishaps or witnessed close friends lives ruined by partners that were upset and felt they were “OWED” something for their “services” or “pain suffered”.

He pauses, “I think marriage as it is Ideally thought of is dead. Marriage is now substituted with a modern day magazine story. Marriage used to be thought of as a sharing of oneself with another, which I would relate more to a love novel, good times bad times and test of emotions towards each other. Where as today marriage is more like a magazine story not comparing the two in size, the magazine story is more influenced by people outside the relationship, and personal gain. Where the Ideal marriage is not thought of that way, it is how the couple can advance together.”

“in a novel, it is about the book, the story, the characters. In a magazine the story and characters are all influenced by sales. The stories need to sell to a demographic. Advertisements want Excitement, Flash and Glamour. Sensational headlines drive sales up. This leaves much to be desired in the quality of a character, and the story, the plot has been changed into one exciting car chase after another. Nothing is of substance, all smoke and mirrors. When the excitement ends so does the relationship.”